Just so we’re clear, the responsibility to figure out how to make my invisible labour visible is not mine. My immaterial labour, my unpaid labour, my labour that is given no value. It is not my responsibility to figure out how to make these visible in my relationship and my home.
It is systemic inequality. Deep systemic inequality.
Of course, deeply internalised. So that’s where it’s tricky. Because, of course, I have to deal with this in my life. Moment to moment. And, yes, individuals are part of the ‘society’ that needs to bring about change.
But goddamnit, mother flipping responsibilising individuals is bullshit. Especially women. Especially mothers. At home. Who feel invisible and undervalued anyway.